Haters

I do not believe in haters. Adult’s puuuuuuhlease (please) let’s allow the term “hater” to die! It truly has exceeded its moment. Let’s not even acknowledge the person or persons who we may feel do not always wish us well. Were giving them too much power and an even bigger platform for them to stand on, and that’s completely unnecessary.

I always say when you close your eyes at night know that someone is thinking of you, somehow and somewhere. It’s their thoughts and not yours, meaning you can’t control what someone else is thinking.  However we can control our reaction to their actions. I reflect on my reactions to things when I was younger, and often think I would have been in a different space had I reacted differently. Then I realize no, this is exactly where I am suppose to be, right here! You are where you are suppose to be, right there!

(Laughing and rolling my eyes) that last part sounded good right? I didn’t believe that at first either. Allow me to help you reflect and bring it to light. Some of us may have had different agendas for ourselves at this point in our life (guilty). Example a higher position in our career, and when someone who we knew received a promotion at their job we may have been (in memory of our dead word) a “hater”. Where are they now in their position (unemployed). I remember when I was a little girl and my Mommy and I were in the grocery store and I said I am going to be married by the time I am 18 and she responded “how do you even know someone is going to want to marry you” (you have to love her) and that lead me to reflect on this next point. Someone may have been getting married to who they thought wanted to marry them while you sat in the church pew thinking “always a groomsmen never a groom” and where are they now? At the county clerk’s office signing those papers (divorced). See you were sitting there being what some thought was a “hater” truth is God blocked you from all of those disappointments.

We often think when someone doesn’t agree with us or our way of thinking they’re a “hater”. Um no, why can’t they simply just be disagreeing with us or may just have their own mind. You know that is possible that everyone isn’t out to get you. Why do people think like that? Is it because someone has convinced them they are that important, or as a child their parents lead them to believe they could do no wrong. I definitely wasn’t raised that way my Mommy busted my bubble every time (laughing). Seriously where does the term “hater” come from? Who decided that was a great description for a person who may not be on the same level as us. We must think of another term, well truthfully another term is not needed because it would be just a ridiculous as the previous term.

Let’s try and see how long we can go without using the term “hater”. Before we let that word come out of our mouth or before we let our finger tips stroke those five letters on a keyboard lets think about what we are willing trying to call that person, and what we truly think of them. Try and turn that thought into something more positive or maybe even educate them. Better yet educate ourselves.

Be BLESSED