Feeling like Usher. These are my confessions (laughing) So this weekend while out and running the traditional weekend errands in my traditional errand clothing that I call my construction worker look. Which includes, a baseball cap, baggier than normal jeans and layers of tops. I shared a moment!
That moment included a fine man! So the story goes like this. I turned around and this man was immediately behind me in line. My senses said to my brain “he is weeeerrrrKKK” my brain then translated that to my open mouth and those words came running out, right to his ears. Now for those of you who may not be familiar with the term weeerrrkkK it simply means he was, fine, handsome just drop dead gorgeous. Everything was put together well from his head to his feet. I am sure if I would have gotten close enough he would have smelled just right. Now did I care if he heard me? Not really. Even though, I am not in the position to be accepting applications or auditioning life mates (dating). I wasn’t mad at my brain for speaking up and standing for what was right (laughing). Ladies I did it for us you would have thought the same.
Now I shared this moment that I had because it made me realize I do have a type! Do you have a type? Or are you afraid to admit you have a type? What does “type” even mean? Does that mean you absolutely will not date anyone who doesn’t look like “that”? For years my dearest friend has told me I have a type and I would argue her down and swear up and down I didn’t. On that day I came out of denial and said “self you do have a type”. However if he was my type I AM NOT MAD (laughing hysterically).
As I thought about his fineness on the way home I came to the following judgmental decision based on his looks alone. He probably is the definition of dirty dog (bless his little heart), I’m sure he doesn’t even know how to spell commitment yet alone be an example of it. Probably is just a holiday Christian attends church on Christmas, Easter and of course to show his love for his mother he attends church on Mother’s day. Thinks that converse is just a shoe and not actually the correct way to say conversating (correct conversating is NOT a word). He probably is that man that will date you for 8 plus years and ya'll are over 30! Probably is that man who keeps his phone on silent and upside down. Probably is that man that will watch his lady pump the gas and he doesn’t even bother to take out the trash. BUT HE IS FINE!
Sadly to some what I mentioned above is not a problem its actually the norm. When did those qualities become okay? When did looks become a pass for all things that are wrong? Men you too are guilty. We do so much judgment on the outside and bypass what’s truly on the inside. We ignore when people show us who they really are, a lot of the times for shallow purposes. Are you shallow? Or do you recognize what’s on the inside first? I will answer that last question for you NO you don’t! (Guilty) However the bigger question is when you realize who they truly are do you exit stage left? Or do you try and do everything in your precious power to change them? If a lot of us would put the energy into changing ourselves instead of others, guaranteed you would be in a better head space.
None the less he was still WeeeeerrrkkkK and I appreciated him for that (smiling ear to ear) Happy Monday lovely’s! Praying your today is better than your yesterday.
Be BLESSED
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